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Kinchan was expressing himself to me while he send me home just now. Tough, hard, happy, adventurous, bubbly is not a ticket for a person to avoid a crisis in life. Everyone has their own problem. Personality crisis is what he call it but then he act like he doesn’t have anything to worry.

The most I can do is observe and listen. Kinchan is one hard person to breakthrough if I tell him what I think. He may denies it while actually the fact he is having problem. I often hear from his mouth he is lonely nowadays. Tho he has family, friends, collegue and etc. He is single, with career, staying with parents, have friend to lepak with, jovial by nature, with characteristic and brains. But the age of 29 he aint have anyone to be his company that can be called as lover.

I was thinking why he should worry about it. He claimed he has few sets of friends. But he choose more to hang out with us may be because of comfortability. He has to look at things in wider perspective. To be with more people, different class, income level, industry and etc.

I think its true when I come to think of what he said. He has everything but when he reached home he only saw the familiar face he was with 29 years ago. He has no one to tickle him emotionally, amused his feelings sometimes, say nice things to him in terms of caring and loving him as a lover.

Im going to touch about gender wise here. And hey no heart feeling yea!!! Every man success there is a woman behind it and every woman success not necessarily with a man backup. Woman on a shelf nowadays are many than those days like 10-20 years ago. They are strong wit with career and focused. Some of them agree that they are lonely although material wise, support and friendship are everywhere but emotionally they are far left behind. But they are strong, very strong in handling situation as well as managing their feeling. Loneliness can be diverted to so many things.

But man can’t be like them. They (man) are hard on the surface but very fragile and vulnerable inside. They wanted to be pampered and loved all the time. If theres a woman who can give them attention, caring, loving them they will excel more in life and feel motivated to go further to reach a successful life.

The best time for a man to get married is around thirty’ish’. This is the mature age of a leader to lead a family, woman and also life. They have gone through teens time, adults and in a process to be someone to be a “khalifah/ leader” in his own ship of life. He knows what the good and bad for himself and his family. He can think rationally and emotionally affected by his love ones.

So what I can tell kinchan is, do not feel that bad about being alone and single. Allah answers prayers in 3 ways… HE says YES & GIVES u what u WANT, HE says NO & GIVES u something BETTER, HE says WAIT & GIVES u the BEST in HIS own time. So dear Kinchan, god is testing how can u manage your loneliness and divert it to something else. One thing I can notice and better as you, yourself is you did not just take anyone that comes by, you did not fall just for anything even you are desperate and you know clearly what you want in term of the girl you need as for your company. So why worry. Everyone loves to be around you. Why don’t once a while change your venue of lepaking to somewhere better. Of course its gonna cost you in the beginning but it pays you later in term of having more varieties and type that you can choose from. So tepuk dada tanyalah nafsu. Kalau takut terkena badai jangan berumah diatas bukit kalau belum sampai seruan relax-relax la sikit. Pantun la pulak. Sorong papan tarik papan, buah cempedak dalam perahu, suruh makan dia makan, suruh dating dia tak mahu. HAHAHAHAHAHHA sorry la kinchan, im not good in creating humor like you but im learning.

God answer my prayers in all 2 ways already, now im waiting for the third one should I be given a chance to get my prayers. Otherwise, ill just be happy to see my children’s excel in school and then perhaps be someone who love their mother unconditionally. Im so content of what I have now. I have friends, around me. Be it girlfriend, boyfriend, old or young. I have people still admiring me, be it single or married. I have the appeal still to make them look at me twice but what I want is just to always be thankful for what I have today and yesterday. Nobody knows what is for tomorrow, next week, next month nor 5 years from now.

Just be patience and enjoy what you have in your hands now. Very best of luck in your search. Oh ya lupa!!! Encik ARip, HAPPY 27^TH BIRTHDAY, young and good looking individu, being single is not that bad right? Mandorm, mandorm gak bila time gila datang layan je gile tu.

Date released: 28^th October 05
Currently listening to: Siaran langsung terawikh from Mekkah
Mood: Content